The need for mental health today is loosely determined by behavior. Meaning there are no concrete ways to know when a person should seek help, so each individual defines that on their own. Once in therapy, the most common method of working through issues is to discuss the person’s thoughts to help them correct those that are unhelpful and modify them to be more constructive. While considering behavior and thoughts are key, I believe that this all misses the fundamental cause of mental health issues: emotions.
How Do You Define Emotions?
Emotions – or more accurately, the physical sensations we experience or lack thereof – are what I have found to be the root cause of all mental health issues. As I see it, our subconscious makes errors as it recognizes patterns or fails to do so and either causes feelings when we don’t need them or doesn’t cause them when we do.
Further, I have found this to occur around what I refer to as the four social emotions; guilt, shame, fear, and worry. In other words, our under or over experiencing guilt, shame, fear, and worry causes us to give an incorrect meaning to how we interpret reality. This scheme provides numerous benefits. First, we have associated typical situations associated with these misleading feelings.
For example, we know that a person who has been physically abused walks around feeling bad and under-experienced guilt, so they’re being judgmental, and lashing out at others is typical. This adds a profound ability to do something that is not done today; calling out the behavior of others.
Also, as I have determined the origins of these pattern mishaps, so you can focus on the dynamics of your past that lead to your incorrect responses. Like when a person is dominant and you don’t stick up for yourself. Further, this knowledge can be distributed so everyone would have a common vocabulary to use as well as standardize the system/process since it all starts with the same root causes.
In fact, the modification system – how you affect change in a person – can become a public/shared process which is really as it should be. This is because I use non-stigmatized phrases that are quantitative versus qualitative.
To enable all the above, original terminology has been developed and, in some cases, unique definitions of words have been created to clear up any ambiguity.
Finally, we define behavior that is abusive, and therefore never justified, as well as that which is undesirable and, therefore, should be mitigated. All in all, it is common sense and really self-evident system for enabling people to manage behavior, that of theirs as well as that of others.
There’s more to it than that, but that should give you some general idea as to how my approach differs from the existing schemes. I invite you to visit my site for more details and to give me whatever feedback you feel is appropriate. You can find it at http://emotionalalignment.com/CORE/CORE
Regardless of your opinion, I hope that you find at least some of my commentary to be useful. Managing behavior needs to be a power that is returned to the community, now more than ever. More importantly, emotional wellness should be free, and this is a way for us to do that.
therapy helped me a lot to know myself better and to deal with my difficulties.
Hi Miriam, nice article
Great article. Due to covid many people are suffering from Depression and i am one of them.Thanks for your valuable tiips.
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i can’t define my emotion in front of someone.I’m shy and really wanted to not being wanted a shy
The irony is that you can’t avoid doing that. Everything we say and do – and also what we don’t say and do – tells others something about us. How we dress, the words we use, the careers we pursue, even the music we like all offer insights. So if a person knows what to look for and the right questions to ask, volumes can be gained about what you feel.
i can’t define my expresion in front of someone.I’m shy and really wanted to not being wanted a shy
“Don’t let your struggle become your identity” and I think it fits here completely…
I do see how the approach to mental health is continuously changing over the years. Having severe anxiety, I’ve been through 20 years of it and I prefer the way they handle it now, to 20 years ago. I am never one to take medications if I can avoid it and don’t tend to get on with SSRI’s so the more holistic approach works for me which they now offer (mindfulness, CBT etc)